Today I would like to talk about Self-love. Whenever I am in unexpected situations, I have to quickly remind myself of who I am and what I deserve. I had to do that a couple of times this week and that’s why I started reading about this topic and put together a summary of some of my favorite blogs.
Self-love is a popular term today that gets tossed around in normal conversation. "You have to love yourself more" or ”If you only loved yourself, this wouldn't have happened to you." BLA BLA. I know the whole self-love thing is being talked about all over the place, but I have the feeling that most people still have no clue what that even means! I am often observing people that cut off bad energies out of their lives because they believe that they deserve better - I agree. And then I see a lot of people that still roll with the same friends or partner and that are too scared or don’t have the courage to leave.
I find that self-love is a state of appreciation for oneself that grows from actions that support our physical, psychological and spiritual growth.
I guess it really means something different for each person because we all have many different ways to show that we love ourselves.
Anyways, below I've put together a list of my favorite self-love exercises.
Queen, You gotta protect your crown. Bring the right people into your life. I love the term frenemies. It describes so well the type of "friends" who take pleasure in your pain and loss rather than in your happiness and success. My suggestion to you here: Get rid of them! There isn't enough time in your life to waste on people who want to take away the shine on your face that says, "I genuinely love myself and life". You will love and respect yourself more, trussss me.
Act on what you need rather than what you want. You love yourself when you can turn away from something that feels good and exciting to what you need to stay strong, centered, and moving forward in your life, instead. By staying focused on what you need, you turn away from automatic behavior patterns that get you into trouble, keep you stuck in the past, and lessen self-love.
Practice good self-care. You will love yourself more, when you take better care of your basic needs. Treating your body like a loving vessel will not only boost your self-love, but also your energy. Be intentional about what you put into your body, not only because you want to look good but because you want to feel good. Feeding your body nutrient-rich foods will have you oozing love out of every pore. (I think you should become a Vegan,…but we can talk about that another time lol)
Forgive yourself. We humans can be so hard on ourselves. The downside of taking responsibility for our actions is punishing ourselves too much for mistakes in learning and growing. You have to accept your humanness (the fact that you are not perfect) before you can truly love yourself. Practice being less hard on yourself when you make a mistake. Remember, there are no failures if you have learned and grown from your mistakes; there are only lessons learned.
Clean out your closet. This may be more therapeutic than you initially think. Cleaning out your closet will help you not only clean your room up a bit but will positively affect your mind. Getting rid of old things will make room for new things to come into your life! Cleansing your mind can sometimes work in the form of letting go of clothes, shoes, jewelry, etc. that remind you of a certain time in your life that links to a negative vibration. Don’t chase what’s already happened; love yourself enough to know the best is yet to come. On that note, I’m selling my TV and loads of natural Hair products - email me if you are interested.
Build a precious community. As much as we would like to think we can, we can do everything ourselves. You need the support and love from people around you to stay motivated and on track. Positive energy is contagious, so whether you’re building a network LIKE SHÉGITU or planning to go to a fun event, it’s always important to have a community you value around you regularly.